A man’s advice on how to separate good men from bad.

or “Are men squirrels?”

I friend of mine who is a girl told me that she thinks of men as squirrels, since if you want to keep them around you have to be very careful since they scare easily. At first I took offence to that comment, but then the more I thought about it, it started to make sense. Some guys are like squirrels, but these guys are losers and not worth the girls attention. The mistake is a lot of women run after the squirrels. This is absolute wrong response, you shouldn’t chase a squirrel, you should be sad it ran off, and move on. You ever try to catch a squirrel? If you can catch them is worth the effort? NO!

To continue the metaphor good men are like library pigeons. It takes real effort to scare them off, and all they do is move to a safe place and watch for it to be ok to come back down. Sometimes women do stuff to scare men off, it is a fact. No seriously y’all do some stuff that absolutely baffles us. However, a good man will take a lot before he “leaves”, and then he only slips into the shadows to watch for when it is safe to return. Sometimes women (well everyone) just need to work stuff out on their own, and it is unsafe for another person to interfere with this process. Then once she is through the worst part then he can return and be supportive.

There is no metaphor for a great man, since a great man is there for you. Sure you still have to work “it” out on your own but he will be there for you. A great man will hold in his arms while your tears make you quake. (Perhaps this acts as a “getting through it” catalyst, since the sadness seems to pass in hours not days or weeks this way.) A great man looks you in the eyes when you say something “scary” and says something that makes it alright. A great man doesn’t always know what to say or do, but works through it with you. A great man helps you not take yourself or life so seriously, humor and concern really can take the edge off of life. Yes, great men are out there, but most great men start out as good men, and grow with you.