Despite what men think women pick men, not the other way around. Think about it, if you are not dating women who are so far below what you could get that they are just so happy to have your attention, they pick you! Asking a girl out is not a misnomer, the key word is asking, since you have a chance of hearing the word No. I am glad it is this way, choice is a terrible thing. How many women have said yes to one guy only to find out shortly after that a better guy was planning to ask? This is a terrible thing but the situation is very similar the philosophical math problem the prisoner’s dilemma. Since if the goal is be with someone is it better to turn down a man now in hopes of better one in the future, or should she take the current guy assuming the better guy in the future isn’t likely? Quite the quandary, since how you answer that question will determine a good part of your life and choosing wrong can get you a bum or a house full of cats. ;)
Men’s actually play the same game, only we don’t have it as bad since picking which women to pursue isn’t near as hard, but deciding how hard you will try to turn the mandatory “no” on the first request into a “yes”, can be difficult. Now since women have the same problem of finding ways to get asked, I guess men just have it easier.
There are few things more awkward (or amusing in a very evil way) than hanging out with a girl who is just “a friend” but would like a chance to be more. Actually it is only awkward if the guy knows the girl's feelings, if he hasn’t noticed then he can have a great time, while the girl digs her finger nails into her palm every time he says something to get her hopes up only to dash them in the next breath. However if the guy does know then it can be overly awkward, since he will try to avoid any conversion topics that raise or dash hopes. (It is wickedly amusing since this often impossible, and even more so if the girl doesn’t think he knows, he can watch her keep smiling even though it is clear she is biting her lip.) Yes, this is evil, but girls there is good news, unless you have slipped into a class were he thinks of you as a sister/mom figure, if he is there and being awkward with you, then you have a shot! Advice for men in this situation: Don’t touch them! While it seems like an innocent thing or even a good idea, don’t do it! I have no proof, but I am fairly sure that women can value a touch very highly, so touching them is just cruel. If she would smash her coffee cup over the head of the guy at the next table if you told her you would kiss her if she did, you taking her hand or brushing her leg under the table is like tormenting her. I could go on and use a Thesaurus of synonyms for cruel, but I would since “just don’t do it should suffice!”
A couple more things
Yes, men can be fairly clueless, and women can manipulate us, don’t get too full of yourself just cause it works. A lot of the time men know they are being manipulated, and do it what we are asked cause we choose too. We simply ignore the manipulation part, as irrelevant. Or we know that after request by manipulation comes the less pleasant ways women ask for things (nagging and yelling.) So, if it is something we would do anyways, she can feel good cause she got her way by being sly and we avoid her having a grunge can she had to ask the hard way, it is best to give in at the manipulation stage.
Also, when a man asks you what you want (like Where do you want to go to dinner?), just answer! Few things are more annoying than asking and being told “I don’t care, what do you want?”. Then having 99 things you suggest turned down, as not what she wants. It should be a law that if you reject a suggestion that you must give a new one!
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