The self absorbed

The one and only person who reads this pointed out that I haven’t posted in awhile:

So a few things:
First the more self absorbed a person is the less sure about themselves they are. The reason they are like that is that they are so wildly unsure of themselves that they require the constant input of hearing others agree with their self opinion (even if it is not agreeing not disagreeing is the same thing.) They will surround themselves with people who will stroke their ego, and do things to feed it. The things will escalate since it becomes harder to keep up the façade, especially if something happens to weaken it. They will also have a person in their life (generally of the opposite sex) who’s job is the careful and round the clock cultivation of their ego and the handling of day to day affairs, since real work or dealing with the little details does not further their cause. Remember being self absorbed (or anything else where you have to keep up a massive front to hide the walls) is a 24/7 job since the ego is a fragile thing, and it is hard to lie to yourself, so at night or when you are alone the “demons” that live inside can’t be kept in control and you will consume a bit more of you. That is way the self absorbed and other “front” personalities are lonely people.
So back to the point.

How to deal with the self absorbed:
Never ever ever, say nasty or hurtful things to them, that is like backing a wild animal into a corner, and very dangerous. It is just as hurtful to deny them the complements they are fishing for, but it is a must. Remember this people have self image problems so if you “buy into” their front, you lose their respect and therefore any control you have over them. So, don’t fall for their fishing, but occasionally give them a complement. The complements they ask for are like ego soda, a quick sugar rush that doesn’t last and complements that are unsolicited are like a super nutritious smoothie, and really last. Once they feel good about themselves, they will like you since you “see their brilliance” but they can still respect you, it is simple if you think about it.

How to feed them info:
You must hide the info in amongst the things you say about them, and keep in nice small morsels. Often the best way is to talk the “ego care taker” since that person will usually be giddy to have attention paid to them, and if convinced can see that the info is passed along in the most expedient way to their charge.