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A girl once told me that they thought wearing a wedding ring would cut down on the men who approach them. While this is true, it would completely and totally back fire. The reason that men approach her is that she gives off signals that tell them she is looking and is an easy mark. A wedding band would only discourage the men who she should meet. The total walking dirty bags would be undeterred, if not encouraged by the fact she was unavailable for a relationship, so they could just go for the sex and not worry about “feelings”. If she really wants to scare of the dirt bags she should get a new ring and wear it on a different finger. This ring is the kind of ring a man buys are a present for a woman, and she should play with it or use as a prop to scare of the dirt by talking about what a sweet friend he is (really go on and on, be drippy), this place a man’s claim on her but allows her to be single when she needs to. Dirt is interested in prey, women beyond the watch of a man, by being semi-attached the dirt knows she might have a male friend who will blow his cover. Good men will not have this hang up and so semi-attached is not a reason to move on.

What will solve a lot of the problems women have, is the banning and burning of every copy of the movie Pretty Woman. Why? False hope for women. Sure 1 in a billion women find that guy. The rest women get treated like sex objects and wait and wait for salvation. Here is a simple fact, men are with few exceptions sleaze (you decide for yourself about me) and if you are willing to skip the relationship part and go straight to the physical then that is type of men you will get. I truly believe that the women who believe the Pretty Woman myth should be rounded up en masse and in a similar fashion to A Clock Work Orange forced to watch You’ve Got Mail and Sleepless in Seattle till the belief that a white knight (or whatever) will come and save them is purged from their mind, and the belief that a relationship is a partnership and that if they wait for it, love will find them, takes its place. These women date the same sleaze bag over and over and never know that the man they seek is the one that the opposite of their “type”. If you are a woman and find yourself giving and giving of yourself but the other person either is never filled or never returns it, then guess what he is NOT the man you are seeking and NEVER will be. To get philosophical your heart isn’t self filling, the love you crave to fill your heart must be given, so if it is empty despite your best efforts, move on. Find a man who you aren’t afraid will run off when he hears about your baggage, and will hold you while you cry. That will yield the happiness you seek, the rest is just disappointment and wanting. It WILL be difficult to make these changes, you will need a new attitude, and almost certainly a new peer group, but it is worth it. Meet men at the grocery store, not a bar, or on the internet.

Try this, the next time you see a decent looking guy that does something simple, like holds the door for you, (if you can) engage him in conversation, don’t be coy. If how you flirt has only gotten you sleaze them try something new. The signals you give off get you the men you don’t want, so don’t use signals to get his attention, say "hi", say "how much appreciate a guy with manners", just say enough to get him talking. If he is interested then he will take over the maintenance of the early, "getting to know you chatting". If you must get a "man project" remember physical fixer uppers and more tractable than emotional fixer uppers.